09.29.01
Dear Pixie,
Why is it that the only time I get attention from many different women is when I am taken?
I recently started dating a cool chickie, and since then women have been coming out of the woodwork. Intelligent, attractive, successful women. Women that if I wasn't already attached, I would not hesitate to attach myself to. Where were they hiding when I was oh-so-very single?
This is not the first time I've noticed this, either. Most of my friends have had this happen to them, too, and we're all stumped.
Former Iowan, soon to be Former Texan
Former -an,
Actually, this one's pretty easy.
When you are single, you reek of desperation and loneliness, which sends intelligent, attractive and successful women into hiding. It's kind of like the fight or flight reflex, except completely and utterly different.
However, when you are taken, you reek of confidence and success with women. Many intelligent, attractive and successful women are drawn to that like a moth to a flame.
Basically, women can sense desperation in men, and either avoid it like the plague, or exploit it like the lottery. They hide out in secret bunkers, or they fancy themselves up and work the desperate for valuable cash and presents.
Either that, or they can't stand that some women are happily in a relationship and feel the need to sabotage it.
It pretty much boils down to the fact that women are mysterious and strange, and you should just appreciate that one wants you, instead of trying to figure out why other women seem to want you as well.
Looking this gifthorse in the mouth is about as advisable as trying to attach to one of these other women while you are already attached, which usually leads to detachment of lots of things, some of them more painful than others.
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